Marriage is a beautiful bond that offers some amazing benefits related to wellbeing, stress management, life satisfaction, etc. But if the marriage isn’t healthy, the couples are sure to get into fights and issues that might tear them apart and the marriage will fail.
Working through your problems in a marriage isn’t child’s play however. It is difficult as not a single solution would suffice to solve all the problems that you are facing. It is a huge investment and commitment to keep the marital relationship thriving and healthy. Both you and your spouse will have to work in sync with one another to resolve the hurdles and issues that you are facing to save your marriage. By implementing simple strategies and proper communication you can lead a happy married life.
There are a lot of good strategies that will help you to restore your marriage if anything goes haywire. These are tried and tested strategies and hence will help you to solve your marriage problems. Some of these strategies are:
Listen to your partner:
Inattentiveness can be very frustrating, hence before passing your judgment on a problem, give your partner a chance to explain the background. Even if you feel that your spouse isn’t expressing a right thought process, don’t interrupt, hear them out. Never make your partner feel that you don’t care about their thoughts, this can be damaging for your relation. Instead of interrupting, participate in communication with your partner, this will prevent any misunderstanding that could happen.
There is no point in working on solutions for problems that have got out of hand. Therefore, you as a couple should be comfortable enough to talk with one another about any issues or hurdles that you are facing in your marital or professional life. Even tricky topics like sexual dissatisfaction due to factors like premature ejaculation, vaginal dryness, and many others should be talked about. Whether you are taking shighrapatan medicine for treatment of vaginal dryness, as is often said, ‘sharing is caring’. The more you talk and share, the stronger your bond becomes.
Never say ‘Never’. Never say ‘Always’:
Whenever you are discussing a problem with your partner, avoid generalizations and unwanted comments like you never help in house chores, you never spend time with me, etc. Such comments would only intensify the discussion and could potentially lead to a fight. Rather than passing such comments have a discussion about how your spouse can be more helpful and attentive. Clearly communicate your expectations to avoid unnecessary conflicts.
Don’t object to complaints:
Humans generally tend to go in defensive mode once criticized by another person. So, if an argument happens and you are criticized, you must first listen to the complaint and then sit together to find a feasible solution to it, instead of blindly shutting the other person. It is very critical for a relationship that you hear your partner and think about the inputs given by him or her.
Sometimes in order to not hurt the other person, people tend to take indirect ways to communicate their thoughts. Other times, the voice can be condescending and demeaning to the other person. Both these talking situations aren’t healthy for the relationship. Moreover, the lack of directness, constructive conversation, and guidance can further spoil relations between a couple. Therefore, it is always recommended to directly communicate any issue in a polite manner and possibly with suggestions on improvement.
By nature, humans tend to make mistakes and these can be done by your spouse as well. hence instead of pinpointing or demeaning your partner, you should become the bigger person by forgiving their mistakes. By letting your spouse off the hook in good spirit will lay a strong foundation for your relationship. Of course, the mistakes shouldn’t be repeated again and again, but there is no harm in forgiving the first time. Read more about it here.
It looks difficult to resolve conflicts in a marriage, but with persistence and teamwork, you can win over all the tough situations and save your relationship. Clear communication is the key to solve any conflict, hence sit together and talk about any problems that you as a couple are facing. Do share your thoughts in the comments section below.